Lately I have been feelin funky. Not awesome put your geometric print pants on funky, like funky in a funk funky. Right now I actually just feel like typing blahhhhhhhh (there I did it). These past few weeks I have been struggling to find a balance between Mom life, managing my diabetes,
making time for friends, a little "me" time (hello a solo shower without
my two year old would be nice every now and then), answering and returning e-mails (sorry I suck at that) being a good wife
and trying to stay sane with a hobby I truly enjoy...blogging. To say that I have it all figured out some might even laugh. I surely do not...but that's real life for you.
Some days the kids are so much work I end up staying in my sweaty gym clothes (covered in baby puke...I know I am awesome) ALL day long. Do you remember that little series I started called "
Gettin Your Groove Back?" No you don't? Oh me either. As of this exact moment I feel completely groove less.
Want to know something really awesome that just about sums up my week so far? I just looked down and realized I forgot to put my little nursing pads in and I have two giant wet spots soaking through my green shirt. Yeay.
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But yay for small victories: sweaty gym clothes means you got in your workout. That IS something. One thing at a time... the groove will return!
Oh, Lindsay... I am right there with you. And thank you for being honest and admitting this as I think so many moms in the blog world just make like everything is perfect. And maybe their lives are... but mine certainly isn't.
On most days, I stay in pajamas or gym clothes or whatever until well after lunch. And then, during Alice's afternoon nap, I pull myself together and shower/put on a bit of makeup/eat lunch/do SOMETHING for myself. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't.
Just remember, you are doing a phenomenal job raising those two boys!
I stumbled on your blog a while ago and I love reading it. I don't have kids yet but I appreciate your honesty and a good laugh-so thanks for adding in the last part on your post you made my morning!
Chin up girlfriend! Tomorrow is Friday! You are doing such a wonderful job with those 2 amazing boys! Throw on a dry shirt and head outside with your boys. I've heard that even 5 minutes outdoors can completely improve your mood.
I hear ya! Feeling the same way... I'm 8 months pregnant with my second kid and the first one is in the throes of the terrible twos. I'm lucky to even get a shower, which doesn't happen every day. Woke up to a dog puking on my carpet this morning and put me in a terrible mood. Sat my butt on the couch while the toddler is sleeping and checked your blog. It helps to know I'm not alone! :)
Those first few months are TOUGH! You will get your groove back...it just takes time and don't be too hard on yourself. We've all been there - just remind yourself that you are doing the best you can and also, doing an awesome job raising two great kids :)
Oh man! I so remember my shirt always being wet...always! It's a wonderful time, but a really hard time! When mine were babies I made a promise to myself to shower every morning before we went downstairs to start the day. If I had to, I had them in the room with me. This was the ONE thing that made me feel normal, and I haven't missed a day yet. Even today I still do this because it wakes me up and makes me feel sane! Just remember you WILL feel normal again...I promise!
J
Haha I'm not a mom so I can't really relate but I can only imagine! I think life's busy now, I have no idea what it would be like with little ones.
I am right there with you on this one. I'm staring at the computer in my pajamas while my toddler destroys the living room with absolutely no motivation to do anything today.
I need some me time!
I feel just like you. I'm home with a six month old and a 3 year old and usually a shower is my biggest accomplishment for the day. I need to find more me time and get a workout in more often because I'm not feeling great about my post baby body. It takes time but we will get there.
From one funky momma to another- *funky high five*
I totally get you and you're doing a great job.
I HATE when I forget to put on my pads. I've gone to work before without them, totally not realizing, and have to stuff layers of tissues or paper towels down my shirt. Let me tell you, this does NOT work very well. Wet spots still happen. I could die.
I get in a shower in the morning now because my husband is still there when I get up in the morning. He wrangles while I get ready at lightning speed and then I try to entertain my 3-month-old with faces while I blow dry my hair (if I'm lucky the 2 yr old is still sleeping at this point - if I'm NOT, she's crying wanting to be picked up... for like 45 minutes straight until we walk out the door).
There are definitely some funky days in the worst way, but at least those perfect "everything is actually going okay" days do happen every once and again. I have a feeling they will happen more and more the older our kids get. I would totally embrace those smelly gym clothes days the best you can for now and it's totally fine for showers and "me" time to feel like a luxury. Things will balance out on their own in time and give yourself a break for now and know the only people who have it all figured out with perfect lives right now are the ones who choose to project their lives that way. In reality, they don't have it together either.
it's ok, take a deep breath and smile
i'm sorry you are feeling funky friend and having some trouble getting your groove back. ask your husband to help you out with getting that groove back, sending you more texts telling you how beautiful you are even with or without those nursing pads :-)
The adjustment from one to two was really hard for me. It took a few months for me to get my groove back but you will get there! This is just a season. It sounds like you are doing a great job!!!
LOL!!! Okay, I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing WITH you.
I had another parent comment on my hair being down when I walked The Kid to school this morning. I was thinkin' yeah, it actually got WASHED and I wasn't trying to hide the fact that it was filthy for a change.
Sorry about the nursing pad thing. I'm still nursing Little Laney and haven't had to use them at all. THANKFULLY. I do know what it's like to never get a peaceful shower though. What is with that!?!?
I'm thinkin' you should just embrace the funk. How often in your life do you have a good excuse to lay around in your sweats all day? :)
We should open a bottle of wine in unison and toast to our mutual funkiness.
you are a rock star mama! right now, as overwhelming as things can get, i'm just enjoying the one and only infant i have because i know it only gets crazier from here! so props to you for even making it into your workout clothes! bonus points for making it to the gym and back!
ah, lindsay...don't worry, girl...you WILL get your groove back, i promise you that :) i get in funks every so often...they suck but they pass eventually...and what brittany {above} said - you are a rock star mama!!! it is so true...i don't know how you do it. you are such an inspiration...if i ever decide to become a momma, i will definitely be asking you for some advice ;) XO brynn
Lindsay, I adore you. And this post. I am having a terrible day. I'm in such a funk and frankly I'm kind of relieved you're feeling the same. Only wish we were back at Ponte having a glass of vino (in awesome geometric pants, obviously)! :)
oh girl, things are crazy enough with one baby...I can't imagine how it will one of these days if we're blessed with 2! Imagining a newborn with a toddler almost makes me want to break out into a cold sweat thinking about it! ha!
Oh, you poor thing! I remember those days too well. A short time that will pass quickly. You're doing a great job!
ah man, i feel ya sister! I've got a almost 4 and almost 1 year old...I have to say I thought it would be a lot easier...oh boy was i wrong! Sometimes I think i'm not cut out for this because I can't pull it together. I think i'm just going to have to be ok with dirty pjs for awhile...and eating beans because I can never get a proper grocery list together and that seems to be the only thing in the house! lol...ok enough support from me!
Hang in there Linds...this will pass. I didnt know you had diabetes... Hope everything is ok..
I give moms soooo much credit! I have a hard enough time finding balance in my life. I couldn't imagine but one day your two little guys are going to grow into wonderful gentlemen and it will all be due to your lack of showers and vomit covered clothes!
You'll find the balance! Xx
I am right there with you (i had my first baby, a girl named Felix on 9/17). The day i finally got to take a shower and a longish nap in ONE day -- i promised myself I would never take either for granted.
hugs!
You won't believe me but you will miss those days. My boys are 22 & 16..I really miss those days! I really do :)
This post is the reason I love your blog! Your honesty is so refreshing. I hope that you get out of this funk and are able to have a little down time/me time this weekend. You are balancing a lot so I totally understand that you are feeling overwhelmed/stretched too thin. You are an awesome mom though, so know that all of the time, energy, and love you are pouring out is so important and worth it!! xx
i'm not a mom, so i can't relate but i can - we all get into funks sometimes. and they're the worst because it feels like they just have to leave - like there's no cure for them. but i'm glad you got to sit down today and write this, and i hope at some point today you got to have a little time for yourself. thinking of you!
chin up girl! totally have been there and i promise it gets better! :)
Hang in there. I'm in my fifties now, but it wasn't that long ago that I had two babies 16 mos apart and I would call my mother complaining. She would tell me to enjoy the time with the babies because it will be gone before you know it. I didn't believe her then, but she told the truth. My babies are gone now and it's an empty nest I sit in. I have memories, of course, but this house isn't alive anymore. You're not alone when you say you stay in the same clothes and have baby stuff on you. Hahaha...those are the things you'll miss, believe it or not!
I'm right there with ya. Three babies (4,2, and 5 months). I don't even go to the gym so most days I stay in my pajamas instead of gym clothes ;) I always try to work up the courage to leave the house but most of the time I just feel too overwhelmed.
you are so cute..already can tell i will love your blog. can't wait to follow!
xo chaseandem.blogspot.com
ahhhhh the joys of motherhood! ~ I made a deal with my husband each of us gets one hot interrupted shower ( when he is home ) make a big difference ... lock the door lol .
new to your blog and love it! i feel your pain! i have an almost 3 year old and a 1 month old. i NEVER get to shower by myself and my boobs leak right through the pads without me knowing until my totally awesome daughter laughs at me b/c 'silly mommy!!! your boobs are leaking'.
Oh man, I know that feeling. Not for the same reasons as you of course but yeah... I'm sorry you're in a funk. I hope it starts looking up real soon. Thanks for being so honest and inspiring all the time.
Something that really resonates with me is the saying,"The days are long but the years are short." Just knowing that each phase will actually end is sometimes the best reassurance.
Don't forget about moms with older kids, we love taking babies for a few hours every week (at least I do) because we don't have to be responsible for the needs of a baby 24 hours/day.
aaawwww, i would've cried if i was you. I'm sure we all wouldn't mind if you skipped some blogging in exchange for some you time :-)
Love your honestly...hang in there!!
Your post is really fabulous. I have 2 twins and i have already faced those situation for 2 to 3 years. In those days i want to be look charming by wearing funky clothing but due to the habit of urinal upon me by those is always forced not to wear bright dresses.
WOW! Thank you for this honest post. I've got three kids, two I educate at home, one of which has Inflammatory Bowel Disease which keeps me in the kitchen most days for hours, and a little 9 month old we adopted who knows she's stronger than me. I look at your beautiful picture, and other bloggers whose style I ADORE and think "I'll never be pretty again. I'll never dress nicely again..." Wahhhhhhhhh. BTW - adopting/having a baby at 40 ain't easy and makes me feel like I'm 85.
Pinterest/blogging can be a blessing and a curse all at once. It can put expectations on people that aren't real. It can also inspire (I'm not downing blogging or pinterest). Sometimes, I just need some balance with it all. And, I'd love a shopping spree or vacation. Alone.
Thanks again for this REAL post- Now, will you please post a picture of you in sweatpants with puke on them? I think it would encourage me. Or, it might make me sad. I'd probably say, "She even looks gorgeous in puked on sweatpants!"
Jen
my BIG FAT grain free life
I agree with everyone else, thank you for this honest post.
I only have one baby but have my "funky" days too!! It is hard trying to do it all and BE it all! Sometimes we all need days like this (some of us need more then a day! ha)
Keep your chin up girl! Sometimes something has to fall to the side, whether it is blogging or making a home cooked meal for dinner! We may be women, mothers, wives, etc but we can't do it all ALL of the time!! (I think those that say they do are LYING!!! haha)
I'm a 27yr old mom of three girls, 3yrs,2yrs and 4mths old and I COMPLETELY understand! And I am super happy to see you admit it and also that your fans admit it to,they say misery likes company but I think we like empathy. To know that someone out there knows and understands.
I've been super out of it and i realized how diet and creating me time has been my key to sanity. And finding blogs like yours that help me get there are amazing! I can't imagine being a mother twenty years ago when none of this existed.
I've been much better lately but I give a lot of credit to my husband who finally looked at me one day and said that we will make the financial sacrifice to pay for gym memberships and a babysitter so we can go work out together three times a week. It has done wonders for us as a couple, my patience and my mood; just thought I'd share that. I was a babysitter during my university days and all the mother's(5 in totaly) i babysat for were stay at home moms who needed me time.
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