So how is life with two kids under the age of two? It's hard. Amazing yes but still hard. I don't know how some Moms seem to pop out kids and then get right back into their normal routine without even skipping a beat. I barely have time to take a shower. I see these Moms who seem to juggle it all so effortlessly. Every time I attempt to leave the house I feel like a traveling circus show. Oh and for those of you who wished my husband and I luck as we attempted to bring the two kids to the movies this weekend...well we lasted a whole 15 minutes ha! My current mission is to find a good reliable babysitter that we can trust...and we will go ALONE next time. I will admit, I am struggling a little with my new normal for sure.I was sitting on the floor with Ronin and Max the other morning and realized it's okay if I don't have time right now to bust out that DIY that has been burning a hole in my brain, and it's okay that my excitement for the day is figuring out how to use my Moby Wrap and walking with both kids to get the mail.
Being a Mom is the hardest yet most rewarding job in the world. I want to slap my old self in the face really hard for ever thinking otherwise. I am raising two boys who will someday grow into men and then repeat the beautiful cycle with their own children. So yes, my greatest DIY to date is growing two humans and then raising them. Sometimes I just need a little reminder.
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Lindsay, I learnt very early on, never, ever think that those people who 'appear' to be handling it all so well, really do. You don't really know that. We're all the same. Sometimes everything just falls into place and other times it doesn't. That's okay! That's parenthood. Kids don't know how to fall into your plans. They've got minds of their own and it never stops. Mine are nearly 8 and 6 and I still wish I could listen to my favourite song in the car without an interruption. Never, ever happens! LOL You're doing so well!
Anne xx
Oh yes, adjusting to life with 2 is tough, and it will take some time but you'll get there eventually :) And I'll soon be saying the same thing about wanting to bust out a DIY but not having the time, won't I? Ahhhhhh!!!! :)
Oh I'm with you! We've got two foster boys with us right now and both are under the age of 2. It's been chaotic since we got the second one 3 weeks ago, but it's absolutely wonderful at the same time. I hate feeling like people are judging me and my mothering skills, but it is what it is, and I'm learning (slowly at times) to just let it go. Hang in there! We'll come out on the other side with wonderful, respectable young men. :)
well said! It will be such a small amount of time in long scheme of things ;)
keep doing what your doing! :)
what a great post. I feel like we've just officially become used to our new normal with 1 baby...i can't imagine how things will change when baby #2 comes along (God willing).
Oh thanks for this honest post Lindsay. I agree...who are those moms who just seem to make it all happen instantly. I'm still adjusting to having one!
So, so sweet. You're an amazing mom. The DIY's can wait. :)
I love this! I've been waiting for so long for things to go back to the old normal and they haven't. Thanks for the wakeup call! Learning to accept the "new normal".
Yes, parenthood is the most amazing thing and hardest thing all rolled up into one! With regards to other moms that make it look so easy, just remember that sometimes things are not always as they appear. We all have our struggles and though they sometimes do not show, it does not mean they are not there. And for that reason, never compare how you handle things to others. I am sure others are looking at you and thinking the same thing.
it's hard to see those moms that seem to have it altogether. But in reality I'm sure they don't. It's just like those families that look perfect and you think they never have problems..but everyone does. Some people are just better at faking it I guess? I have a good friend who always seems to have it together, but i know sometimes it's tough for her.
I have an 8 month old and 3 year old. And it's not easy. Their not as close as yours, but each day is a challenge. Especially in the begining.
Hang in there. It does get a tad easier, but i'm not going to lie, it's never going to be the same as just having one. Now that is a piece of cake compared to life with just one!
But it will get better and it's so much fun to watch them play together!!
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I hired a girl down the street to help me take my oldest to childcare every morning... and I hired her for the whole day this past Saturday when my husband was taking a physical test as part of the fire department application process. Between not being able to pick up my toddler, and having a newborn that wants to eat all. the. time. I honestly can't juggle two yet. I feel like I've had a lot of friends who were on their own completely with two children before the two week mark and I'm in complete awe of them. It's freaking HARD! I feel so so blessed, but very overwhelmed at the same time. I can SEE how it will be managable in the future but I am totally cutting myself some slack because it's a huge transition. We seem to be able to survive when it's a 1:1 ratio with my husband and I both home. For short little stretches I can manage both at the same time (read: 30 minutes haha). I know the stretches will get longer and soon it will be no big deal... Will it ever be EASY? Doubt it, but I think my confidence will continue to grow and that's half the struggle I'm sure.
Hang in there - you're totally right, it's worth every second and every effort. One day we'll look back at this time and think "it was tough but oh man do I miss those days". I'm trying to treasure my babies as much as I can, knowing they're so much work but they'll never be this tiny ever again.
Linds, you are doing a wonderful job. I think having & raising children is an extremely difficult job, and sometimes just getting through the day is a huge accomplishment. Enjoy it as much as you can, it does get easier. You do make some pretty gorgeous little ones, by the way. :)
Thank you for the honesty in this post! I see all these others making it look effortless and it makes me anxious & nervous because I know im going to struggle with our new normal next month this post reassured me I'm not the only one who struggles with this feeling.
I'm three weeks from my due date with our first, a boy - thanks for the pep talk!! And the reality check!
That badge is awesome! I love this post, although maybe feeling frazzled sometimes, it seems like you are still enjoying every moment.
You will get there I'm sure. I dont know about you but when I first got home from hospital with my son I couldn't even fathom how I would leave the house. Now we've got it down pat. I'm sure the same will happen for two; you'll work out how to juggle!
I love that picture, I pinned it on pinterest! haha
I only have one and feel like an hour outing feels like I am packing for a vacay for a week, I can only imagine 2! You will get there!! :)
You are amazing. And yes, you are raising two amazing boys. You are an inspiration!
I can hardly keep it together with one so don't feel badly. And if we get a trip to the mail box I feel like I accomplished something for sure!! :-)
I'm sure every mom wonders the same thing about juggling it all and all that matters is that you know you're doing your best. My SIL just had her 2nd (both also under the age of 2) and she has said over and over that she can't believe how incredibly hard it is to go from 1 to 2 kids, more so then going from zero to 1!
hah - that is such a great image! i'm glad that you're able to embrace being a SAHM and that you've also found it's what you want to do. i think it's wonderful that we live in a time where women can work (in a professional sense) and raise children or choose to focus on raising their children - everyone wants different things and it's nice to see people make their choices and be supported, not judged (hopefully!) when you said that using the moby wrap is your excitement for the day it got me thinking...it's all about our phase of life. remember when you were 15 and you'd pass your crush in the hallway and that was like a heart-pounding moment of excitement?! as we go through life we find in excitement in things, big and small, that perhaps the older or younger version of us wouldn't. but i think if we still found excitement in the same things...we'd be doing something. so here's to functional moby wraps and going to get the mail! (and not passing our crush in a hallway, since he sleeps in bed next to you ;)
I am 22 weeks pregnant and I love reading posts like this, honest and sweet. I know it's going to be hard but it's nice to hear the good things from moms, too. As I'm going through this pregnancy everyone wants to share the "get sleep while you can" advice, which I know it true, but it's these little nuggets of positivitiy that make me really excited for what's to come.
you are an amazing mama! keep up the good work, friend! xo
Going from 1 to 2 was hard for me as well! Way harder than 0 to 1! But now it's awesome :) Hang in there and don't beat yourself up over silly things!!
You are wonderful! The end :)
xx
Tab
reading this gave me a lot of hope since i am due in a little over a month now and both of my children will be only 10 months apart, god help me. I've heard of many woman also who just seem to pop out kids and carry on as if nothing happened, it's insane. My fiance's aunt just had her 11th kid. Hats off to her. lol
But you've shown me now that It will be a lot of work, and we may not have time for ourselves as much as we would like to, but in the end, it's worth every second :) <3
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